I've been told several times by those older than I that I am too "soft" or too "naive".
tell me I forgive others too easily and I'm setting myself up to get
hurt by people. It's not a issue of myself being naive. I am well aware
of what I am getting into with situations.
As children, most of us are
very happy-go lucky, very optimistic, and very forgiving. Very Trusting.
Obviously if we've had a traumatic childhood that is not the case. For those who have had more or less a happy childhood, have you retained any of that child-like wonder? I think that childlike innocence is extremely beautiful. And
unfortunately, as we go through life, many of us become hardened by our
life experiences. We are wronged, betrayed, and weathered by the cruelty
and harshness life can sometimes dish out to us. We hold grudges, we
become unforgiving, we become untrusting of others. Also, many people
develop a bit of racism or negative ideas about certain races/cultures
groups, if certain stereotypes are influenced in our direction.
is not to say one should allow themselves to be taken advantage of. I
don't allow myself to be taken advantage of by people and never will. We
can remove harmful individuals or those who have wronged us from our
lives if we are being hindered, as preservation of emotional and mental
health should definitely be #1. But... we should also forgive, for all
grudges and hatred do are blacken our hearts and blindfold our souls.
think it's heartbreaking. Obviously this world is not always a beautiful
place, but I want to always retain a pure heart. I've never let myself
develop that hard shell and I'm proud of myself for that. What is the
point of holding grudges or holding hatred or disdain in our hearts??
I think it's healthy to retain a relationship with the inner child in all of us, and let him out to play once in while. As
children, the world is a magical and wonderous place. Snow falling is
one of the most beautiful and exciting things in a child's life. A trip
to the zoo, observing an animal outside, discovering the beauty of
nature, or experiencing the sheer joy and excitement and warmth of the
Christmas spirit. These are simple things that some of us take for
granted or grow numb to as we get older and are bogged down by relationships,
work, driving, and finances.
But you know what? Next time the snow
falls, don't complain about driving, or cleaning your car off. Instead
go outside and build a snowman or have a snowball fight. :). On a summer
day, take a walk through the woods and admire the beauty of mother
nature. Don't send yourself into a frenzy during the holidays because of
the impending debt or overload of holiday work you may
experience...instead make a cup of hot cocoa, put on a beloved holiday
CD, sit near the tree, and look through old pictures of holidays past. Lose the frustration, if just for a short while, and recapture the joy.
Life is hard, but it is also relatively short. Feed your soul once
in awhile and let loose now and then without the use of alcohol or other
"adult-related" methods of letting loose. Cheesy, maybe. But most often
it's the "cheesy" things in life that warm our hearts.